Recently I heard a conversation addressing whether or not it was okay to lie. The old "do these jeans make my butt look fat" defense was invoked and consensus was that is okay to lie and sometimes you have to lie.
I disagree. The truth is simple; it is our efforts to avoid it that complicate things. The truth strips away fear and ego; it leaves only what is real; even when what is real is difficult to accept, to share, or to hear.
So what do you do when your best friend, wife, significant other asks "Do these jeans (that are three sizes too small) make my butt look big?" Do you spare their feelings with a little white loving lie? or do you respond "Yes, your butt looks huge, I believe you need to go up a size or three" - Given those two choices the white lie is sounding better all the time.
But what is the truth and how in the heck can you say it?
"Those jeans are not my favorite."
"Those jeans do not do your figure justice"
"I don't think I like those jeans as much as I like ___ (fill in the blank with some outfit that does not make them look hideous)."
Speak the truth, say it from a place of love; and then take my Dad's advice and "don't tell everything you know."
This blog was started when I thought I should be a writer. I no longer think that so this blog is just my little page of thoughts, photos, and the occasional painting.
I like your dad's advice and I agree with you. Honesty is the best policy, but you don't have to be brutally so. ☺
ReplyDeleteLove this Dee. Best friends are the ones that are honest with you. Delivery makes all the difference in the world.
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